Here it is...a quarter of the way through! Tallying the "Yes'es" and "No,s" I have received an overwhelming majority of "Yes" responses, only a couple of "No" responses, and a handful of responses that are too subjective to tell. My most prevalent lesson so far is that this project is affecting my life - I am noticing that I am being nicer in general - feeling called to be nicer at home after being nicer to strangers on the street. Day #25 - place inspirational messages inside library books: I tried this the other day and the library ended up being closed, so today I decided to go for it and I am glad I gave it another try. I placed inspirational notes in the teen section first, then the self help section, and found appropriate books for each of the sayings, "you are beautiful," "you are special," "you are worthy," and the longer version, "your worth cannot be measured by your waist size, the clothes you wear, or the car you drive." I was excited to put notes in books where I thought the reader may especially benefit from it, and I had fun seeing the latest teen books that are out there...which was a lesson in itself, as they were much more advanced than I remembered from my teenage years. Lesson # 25: I had to relearn the lesson that you can't judge a book by its cover, literally. Although I saw myself being drawn towards books that I thought were appropriate or gave a strong message or even to look for a section that applied, I instead trusted my intuition (*let God take the wheel*) and placed notes where I was being led to place them instead of relying on my own personal preferences and surrendered control. Day #26 - help girl scouts to sell cookies: I have seen girl scouts selling cookies at my local Dillon's for some time now, so I thought I would help to spread some sunshine by helping them to sell their cookies. I went to two different Dillon's grocery stores, and although the Starbuck's employee confirmed that there was a girl scouts sighting with a dad and daughter and a table, by the time I arrived they had left. So I did what any good rejection therapy scout does and instead sought rejection from him and his fellow employee...by offering each of them a drink. When they both declined, I ended up buying a drink for the woman behind me, and I called it a night. Lesson #26: If I really want to conquer "rejecting rejection," then I need to dive right in (always less appealing, but better in the long run, than sticking your pinky toe in first) instead of doing what I do best, which is making friends with the people with whom I am interacting and softening the blow of asking for something later. Although it appears that easier could be better if my goal is "rejecting rejection," my goal is also and more importantly getting stronger at accepting rejection, and this requires a deep dive. Day # 27 - bake with Brittney at Park Grounds Coffee: I have always wanted to spend a day, or even an afternoon, baking gluten free goodies at this yummy cafe with a relaxed atmosphere, so I sent Brittney an email asking her if I could come bake with her as part of my rejection therapy project (she already knew about it because of the free advice project I did at her cafe, so there was no hiding it from her :)). Lesson #27: Although I didn't do much more than cube butter and line muffin cups, besides learning how to make goodies the homemade way from scratch, I also learned more about the inner workings of a cafe and the inner workings of an amazing baker and one cool chic...Brittney is exactly who she says she is, and it was fun to hang out and exchange jokes with her sense of humor and intelligence coming through in her wit and her interactions with all who stopped by.
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Those of you who have been following my rejection therapy blogs know that I have been disappointed that I was slacking off with my rejection therapy, so here it is...redemption week! Day 22 - make a compliment chain: I have been talking about this for a while, so I decided to go through with it, no matter what. Since I had such success at Mead's Corner last week, I decided to return there and see how much more magic there was to offer! From the moment I walked in the door, I saw people I knew, starting with Sheona Sleiman, our fabulous host for The Masks We Wear. After I explained what I was doing, Sheona graciously offered to be my first compliment chain participant, so I gave her the stickers of her choosing (cute little *emoticons*) and she was off...to her first table. I too started at my first table, and was met with a willing participant, so I gave her a page of stickers and was on to the next...and the next...and the next. By the time I got to the last table, I realized that the compliment chain, while in theory sounded like a great idea, was too confusing to captivate people's attention long enough to take it to another table. Lesson #22: The bigger picture lesson here was that it felt superficial complimenting people that I didn't know. It was easy to compliment Sheona (someone I knew), but with the others I felt a little fake, and found myself looking for compliments besides "I like your computer cover" (true story...although in my defense, it was *sparkly*) and searching for things a little deeper as "you are really focused, I like your poise" (another true story...when can you be awkward if not for *rejection therapy*). Day 23 - take "the scale is only a number" signs to all area YMCAs: This was my initial idea with the positive body image signs that I placed in the "Y" close to my house, and I wanted to follow through on that challenge. So I ended up at three more "Y's" and I have to say, I am glad I went. The first YMCA was out of water when I asked if I could place the signs, so I got a "I will put this on Shannon's desk" response, which was not a "yes" or a "no"...but what can you do when the locker rooms are closed? The second YMCA was similar to my initial challenge the other day, except after the gatekeeper apologetically told me that he didn't think it would be possible, both the first and second *persons in charge* told me yes...after one asked the other she ended up *asking me* if it was okay to change it to the YMCA appropriate letterhead, because "I have been wanting to do something like this for a while." The third YMCA was a hesitant *yes* from the start, as I talked to the *person in charge* from the very beginning. She told me I could place it and even offered me tape that she hunted for and brought back the high quality, double sided tape...which she entrusted to my care while I hung the sign. Lesson #23: I considered this a real win, because I received two "yes'es" and a "maybe" added on to the first "yes" from the initial day's challenge, so *the odds were in my favor.* And I am super psyched that a multiplication of that many more women are going to read the initial message, "the scale is only a number," followed by the fine print, "you are beautiful," "you are worthy," and "you are loved." Day 24 - place a "kindness box" at an area restaurant: You may be thinking, "but you already did this." Yes, I did; however, like with the first challenge in this series, my initial idea was to take three boxes to area restaurants, and I only took one before. So, I decided this would be a good week to take two more boxes, and I am glad I did. The first restaurant I dropped by was a local favorite, *Doo Dah Diner,* and for this one I even replicated the logo, which I have to say I was pretty proud for doing before even leaving the house. I gave up perfection for transparency long ago, and I am glad I did, because drawing a perfect skyline can be a bit of a challenge. When I stopped by the restaurant, the girl at the front said she would have to go ask somebody, and so I *patiently* waited with butterflies in my stomach, as I do for many rejection therapy challenges. When she came back and told me that the person she was searching for was not there, and that she would have to ask the owners tomorrow, I thanked her and pleasantly stated that I would be back on another day to check!
The second restaurant I dropped by is my personal favorite, *A Beautiful Day Cafe*, and it was the perfect place to ask to do this challenge, as the girl at the front immediately began searching for a place to put it, asking me if it was okay to put it as people walked in so it would get the most traffic, and thanked me profusely for doing something so kind. Lesson #24: I am glad that I chose more than one place for a number of these challenges, because it gave me the opportunity to feel like I really was exerting myself to go outside of my comfort zone, and as a bonus even if the first place was a "no," the second one could be a "yes!" So, it's confession time. The real reason I asked for advice with my rejection therapy projects, which you will see on day 20 below, is because I realized that I was not really putting my "all" into the project. Instead, I was taking snow days and sending requests from home, taking it easy and doing a simple project when I really felt called to do a more challenging one, and in the end I just basically felt like giving up. I am, however, ready to turn over a new leaf. I am going to actively ask myself to step up my game, and I hope that you will challenge me to do the same! Day 19 - send "will you be my friend notes" to 3 people: Do you remember how, in grade school, we actually asked permission to be someone's friend? How admirable, raw, and honest this was. Do you have people in your life, like I do, whom you think would make great friends, but now that you are an adult it is a lot harder to take that first step? I decided to overcome my vulnerability, and it went a little something like this: step 1) choose 3 people with whom I would like to be friends, step 2) write those people notes bravely asking them to be my friend, and step 3) become friends and live in a perfect world...or, at least this is how it went in my head. This is how it went in real life: step 1) choose 2 people with whom I would like to be friends, step 2) start writing a 'will you be my friend note' to the first person, step 3) use excuse that I only have "thank you notes" to write a thank you note instead, step 4) justify it by telling myself that the real reason I am thanking them and not asking them to be my friend is because I want to send plain and simple thank you notes, no strings attached, step 5) repeat step 4 with the second note, and then just choose a third person to whom I would only write a thank you note, based on the already mentioned justification in step 4. Lesson 19: If I want to be honest with others, I have to first be honest with myself. Day 20 - ask for help with more ideas: This step started out well, in theory. I was being honest and owning up to the fact that I only had so many ideas and that it takes a village...to support each other and encourage each other on our journey. However, in full transparency, I stayed at home too long and felt like just finishing the chapter of the book I was reading and going to bed instead of venturing out to whip up a rejection therapy project. While I did push myself to write the request, in full and total honesty, if I had gotten out of the house and done a rejection therapy project, I would have felt much better about myself because I was making a promise to myself and following through on that promise. Lesson 20: Once I start slacking off, it can be a slow fade, and the further I slide, the harder it is to climb back up! Day 21 - give coffee to someone on the street: I honestly thought, at this point, if I buy coffee for anyone, I it will be an improvement over the first two days in this series. With this low bar set, I went into my first coffee shop while I was waiting for a meeting, and began to take the easy way out. Since I did not find anyone who was cold and could really use the warmth, I simply purchased my own tea and hung out until it was time for the meeting. After the meeting, I went to my second coffee shop, thinking that I would pass someone along the way who could use my help. Although I did pass quite a few people by another coffee shop, I had my sights set on checking out a newly renovated shop, so I continued on. When I reached the new shop, I saw no one within close proximity who needed my help, so I left and went to buy a few groceries for the night. After completing my grocery shopping, I went to a local gas station and picked up a cup of coffee, driving a full circle back by the initial store to look for someone to give it to, and ended up finally finding an individual on a bicycle who looked like he could use a warm drink on a cold night. I had to drive a bit more to track him down, and in the end I offered it to him and a woman walking her dog, he accepted, and I was happy that I was able to complete my task while making someone smile. Lesson 21: Follow my first impulse to do what is good at the highest level, and it will prevent me from almost running over a cyclist trying to "help" him. Today is my personal plea for help from you to find out ways in which I can participate in rejection therapy, while making the world a better place. I have a short list of ideas that I have found from the Random Acts of Kindness website, and some more that I have borrowed from the creator of this rejection therapy project.
However, what keeps this a challenge is the make the world a better place requirement. It is easy enough to follow my other two (self-imposed) rules, keeping it moral and something fun, and I could really use some help on the third. So I thought, what better way to make the world a better place than by asking other people what would brighten their day? If it asks me to go outside of my comfort zone, it will also help me grow, and I am sure that your ideas will help to make me reach for the stars! Thanks in advance for helping me brainstorm in this way! Day 16 - leave inspirational notes on the cars in the hospital parking garage: I went early for this one, both for safety reasons and having learned my lesson on the Read Someone Else's Child a Story day. This is the first time that I combined the professional with the personal, as we had a lot of leftover inspirational notes attached to candies from a Thrive ICT event. So, I asked Janet if she was okay with my project, and she said "yes." Next, I had to obtain permission from the hospital, which I thought would be a breeze as I went back to talk to my friendly volunteer who had approved me for the Free Hugs at St. Francis day. Imagine my surprise when I went up to the front desk and saw instead another volunteer giving a strict "no" to a hospital visitor. When I received the same response, I persisted in asking if we could check with the hospital house manager who had given me a green light before. Although she ultimately said "no," I think that both of our days were brightened by our interaction, and how could mine not be...her name was Joy. Lesson # 16: Sometimes a rejection is actually a blessing in disguise. Since I was not placing cards and candies on hundreds of cars in the parking lot, I invested more time in my workout at the gym instead! Day 17 - place inspirational notes in library books: I found this idea on the Random Acts of Kindness website, and I really loved it! Imagine opening up a library book and seeing a note that says, "You are kind," "You are respected," or "You are loved." I went to the hometown library where I had spent several days after school, reading and dreaming, while I waited for my mom to get off work at the nearby bank. I arrived around 4pm, and read the sign that said the library was open after a morning break from 3-8pm, right before I read the sign on their door that says, "We are closed, but we are still awesome." So, I pondered my options, and ended up in reverent silence at the church as I placed notes in the books along one pew next to psalms and/or bible verses with similar meanings. Lesson #17: Be open to anything, and you will find yourself exactly where you need to be. Day 18 - the scale is just a number project at the YMCA: I have always had a dream of placing a sign on top of each scale at the YMCA that says "the scale is just a number," because I can't possibly be there to tell every women who is weighing herself. However, I have overheard tragic conversations, where skinny girls who must be in their early twenties talk about how overweight they are, even sadder yet of friends deriding each other instead of building each other up, and of people of any and all body types looking at themselves with shame as I can only imagine what is going on inside their heads. So, I decided to ask if I could place two signs in honor of Random Acts of Kindness week and of my personal rejection therapy project. Lesson #16: Although the gate keeper (person at the front in charge of telling you "no") may think it is not possible, on several occasions I have had the person in the back say "yes," and this was one of those times! In the spirit of Random Acts of Kindness, I dedicate these next three days to that venture! Day 13 - ask if I can give free hair ties to Hot Asana Yoga: Gina at Hot Asana Yoga is awesome. She provides free water, free hair ties, and free feminine products in her hot yoga studio. The last yoga class I attended, I noticed that they were out of hair ties, so I thought, if she can provide free hair ties, so can I! I found out where she purchased them (a little sleuth undercover shopping), and I bought a colorful variety to ask if I could place in the bathroom for the next class. Did I reject rejection? Yes, I did! Lesson #13: Even if you think that you will be rejected at the simplest offer of kindness, try it anyway; who knows, you may get a "yes"! Day 14 - write in a dry erase marker on the bathroom at Kabab's: I saw this random act of kindness on the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation website, and I thought I had to try it! Who knew that you can write on a mirror with a dry erase marker, and it washes off the same as if you were on a dry erase board? These are the kind of things I wrote: you are beautiful, you are worthy of love and respect, you are worthy of acceptance from the world and yourself, you are unique, and there is a "U" shaped whole in the UNIVERSE and U are the only one who can fill it! Lesson #14: I felt a little bad for not asking permission for this one, but I wanted to do it as a "surprise" random act of kindness, and I put a #RAKWEEK2018 after my kind quotes. I hope that this brightened someone's day like it brightened mine writing it! Day 15 - ask strangers their biggest fear and greatest joy: For this project, I went to Mead's Corner and had a magical experience. I have to say, this is my favorite project so far, right up there with my first project of giving out Free Hugs at St. Francis Hospital! People were open, kind, and unexpectedly raw in their responses. I was invited to sit down and have a full conversation more often than not, and two hours later I wondered where the time had gone! Lesson #15: People's responses ranged from "family" to "finding my calling and using the gifts that I am meant to use" to "lifelong learning in that there is always another story to be told and something else to learn and gain from the beauty and peace of nature and from others" to "living life to the fullest" and "knowing that I have eternal life in Jesus Christ" for their greatest joy. In the biggest fear category, people said "losing someone close to them," "not succeeding," "going to the dentist," "spiders," "war," and "that I am insane and I've made up every interaction around me." In both categories, several people said that their "children" were their greatest joy and their biggest fear was "having their kids disappear" or "not being a good parent." What I learned, more than anything, through the quantity of similar and/or shared responses, is that even though we are unique as individuals, when we look at what truly matters to us, we are all the same at heart! Day 10 - give out a roll of quarter's at Aldi's: for those of you who may not be familiar, Aldi's is an economically priced grocery store and in a cost saving tactic, requires a quarter to deposit in the cart (you get your quarter back when you return the cart). I have been at Aldi's several times without a quarter, and when someone else gave me a quarter, it made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside! Lesson #10: Even though the sun was setting and the temperature was dropping when I finished, I got comments from "God bless you" to "Thank you for reminding me that there are people in the world who do good things!" It is nice for all of this to have this reminder, and I am glad to be on the reverse side this time. Day 11 - apply to be a RAKtivist: I just found out this is Random Acts of Kindness Week, so I applied to be a RAKtivist (Random Acts of Kindness Activist) at randomactsofkindness.org/kindness-ideas, and was accepted on Valentine's Day! Lesson #11: There are 114 ideas for how you can participate in Random Acts of Kindness, from helping the environment to helping the elderly to helping your community to helping a stranger and the categories go on! Even if you are apprehensive about applying, take the courage to do so, as I did, and very soon you may be participating in monthly acts of kindness as part of a new society (kind of like a secret club). Use #RAKWEEK2018 this week in any posts about Random Acts of Kindness, and sign up to be a RAKtivist at randomactsofkindness.org. Day 12 - place a kindness box in a restaurant: When I was out to eat at Homegrown Wichita, I saw a cute kindness box in their restaurant (somewhere to place a compliment about your experience, uplifting words of encouragement, or just a happy quote), and I wanted to spread the concept. So, I designed a box with words like "kindness," "friendship," compliments," and "love" and took it to Gabby's Catering, a local Peruvian restaurant that serves yummy Papas a la Huancaína, which is a dish that I loved to eat while in Bolivia. I explained the idea to a new waitress, who was all smiles when she took the box, and it was obvious that she was touched by the personalization with which I presented what she received as a gift. Lesson # 12: You can really make someone's day by saying nice things about their place of business, and I made a new friend in the process! Day 7 - ask myself over to the houses of those I love: As you can tell from my last post, I suffered a bit of burnout with my rejection therapy, so today I decided to take it easy and do something that was a little more private, yet necessary all the same. At times I avoid asking to go over to someone else's house because I cannot currently return the favor, so I decided to ask a couple of family members if I could come over to spend time with them. I literally asked with these exact words, "I should invite myself over to your house someone soon." Lessons learned: even though I sometimes fear rejection, I was met with positive responses to my requests. I have to remember that I am loved more than I know, more than I sometimes extend in return, and always more than I deserve. Day 8 - a series of mini rejection projects: Today I decided to let the gears start moving again by participating in a series of rejecting rejection attempts, and start again tomorrow with the bigger projects. For this reason, I took back the palms to church and asked the priest if they would recycle them (I didn't know this was a "thing"), talked to someone in church to whom it took courage to reach out, and asked the Starbuck's inside the grocery store where I was doing our shopping if they were going to make any samples of the cherry mocha anytime soon. Lessons learned: the priest let me know that they burn old palms to use in upcoming Palm Sunday masses, the person to whom I reached out to in church was kind to me and taught me that it was the right thing to do, and the Dillon's employee made a sample just for me without asking anything in return! Day 9 - read someone else's child a story: I thought that it would be a fun and creative way to spend time with children by offering to read them their favorite story, so I went to the local Barnes and Noble and was approved to host a story hour, so "go"...the only thing is that I went a little late and only talked to a couple of adorable children who were still around, although their father was trying to get them to go to eat. I talked to the manager about coming back a different day a little earlier, and in the meantime read lots of inspiring children's stories with good messages! Lessons learned: go early, stay late, and be ready for anything. All in all, these three days were a success at rejecting rejection. I love learning that you really can do anything you put your mind to, and all in all, you will get a lot more "yes'es" than "no's" and a lot more "yes'es" than you expect! Good morning and Happy Weekend as well as Happy Sunday! I hope that this weekend gives you the strength that you need to be rejuvenated in spirit, mind, and body! I am sharing my rejecting rejection project with you in the hopes that it inspires you to take the courage you need to tackle a new task, project, or to live the life of your dreams, one day at a time. Although it has been more of a challenge in the second group of days than the first, I am staying committed to living my life with courage and learning from each of the challenges, rejection or not, that I receive. Day 4 - learn how to make a chai tea latte at Starbuck's: if you have been following my rejection therapy project, then you will know that today was supposed to be a compliment chain today; however, when I arrived at the Starbuck's closest to my house (a. k. a. the Starbuck's that was empty for Superbowl Sunday), I realized that a compliment chain was going to be a little more challenging than I had hoped. So I opted for one of Jia Jiang's rejection therapy tactics instead, and asked to make my favorite Starbuck's beverage. The guy at the counter asked his manager, and his manager called the manager's manager, and the next thing I knew I was behind the Starbuck's counter learning how to make a chai tea latte! The first thing I noticed is that Starbuck's collects its coffee grinds for composters, so if you are participate in this environment saving endeavor, then I would highly encourage you to take advantage of this at any local coffee shop. Lessons learned: I learned that the Starbuck's employee who showed me how to make the drink really enjoys teaching other people to make drinks, he was kind and complimentary along the process, and that you can get almost anything you want if you ask for it. I also now have much more of an appreciation for those who make my favorite drink, especially when I learned that it is harder to make with nondairy milks than with regular milk, as I usually order mine with almond or coconut milk ;). Day 5 - offer to buy their favorite meal for someone who is living on the street: when I did the Formation program with Franciscan Mission Service, I had the opportunity to participate in the Sant'Egidio project by taking food to people living on the streets and to actually spend some time getting to know them. The beauty of this project is that the people I met witnessed to me about God's love more than I did to them and I learned a lot about how it was circumstantial and that any of us could end up on the street, as well as it is temporary which is why I avoid using the term "homeless" to label a population that doesn't need another hardship added to the ones that they have already received. So, it was in this same mentality that I searched for someone to whom I felt called to offer a little more dignity than he currently receives, by offering not only to give him food but to give him something he would actually want. Lessons learned: Although I did not end up buying him food (he declined my request), I ended up learning more about him than if I would not have approached him in the first place. He was 62 years old, had a fondness for collecting turquoise jewelry, and enjoyed sweet tea. What struck me most about this encounter was his reaction to my question, "Why would you want to go and do a nice thing like that for me?" I think that we project a message of wariness and distrust too often in this society, and although it is important to be careful of our surroundings, we perpetuate this message every time we retell a story of a single bad encounter we had with an individual who was down on their luck. What would the world be like, if instead, we gave people the benefit of the doubt and placed ourselves in their shoes long enough to learn their stories? Day 6 - put up a free advice sign at a local cafe and see if any approaches me: I went to my favorite local completely gluten-free cafe and bakery in the hopes that since it is in a smaller town, I would see more people who were willing to stop and talk. Instead, I ended up talking to the owner of the cafe for an hour or two, and we had an interesting conversation in what turned out to be her slowest time of the day for customers. Lessons learned: If you want to make a cheesecake that turns out even, place it in a water bath, which is a trick that Brittney learned from baking with her grandmother. I also learned more about gluten-free baking, and about what was going on in Brittney's personal life which although I am not going to share those details here, it made me feel a little warmer on the inside and out to be eating yummy foods while making a real connection with another human being. If you are ever in the the Derby area, you should check out Park Grounds Coffeehouse, and tell her that Valerie sent you! Well, my rejecting rejection therapy was more of a surprise than a success in these last couple of days; however, I am chalking it up to the lessons learned are in the process! I heard about a wild and crazy opportunity that I thought I had to try for 100 days of "rejection therapy" in this Ted Talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ by Jia Jiang. Here is my journey so far and my lessons learned: Day 1 - trade a song for a "love" series plastic cup at Starbuck's - my idea was to go into Starbuck's, order my drink, and ask the person in line behind me to buy me one of the plastic reusable, environmentally friendly Starbuck's cups. Since Valentine's Day is coming up, and since I really LOVE the Starbuck's cups with the "love" theme, I thought it would be a perfect way to start the rejection therapy project while engaging someone else and doing something fun and funny. In my head, I was going to offer to sing the "Happy Birthday" song, ask the person their name, and invite the entire Starbuck's audience of willing and able customers to join in singing this song to whomever I encountered behind me in line. And here is how it went: I went into Starbuck's on the day of the Superbowl, there was no one in line behind me nor any customers in the store, and so I offered the cashier who waited on me a song for the Starbuck's cup, to which he replied, "Oh, I didn't know we had those," and I showed him the cup. Lesson #1: Make sure the person to whom you are pitching your idea knows that it is not a joke. Day 2 - give away free hugs at St. Francis Hospital - this was a bigger success than the first effort, mainly because I made sure that the person I requested permission from knew that it was not a joke ;). I asked the volunteer at the front desk, who asked the security officer, who asked him to obtain permission from the house manager, who called back and gave me permission. I received a lot of smiles and "hi's", some funny looks, and eleven hugs in one hour. I heard the story of a man's journey two hours after coming to see his mother, was told I made someone's day, and even received hugs from a veteran from the Korean war, a security officer, and people from all ethnic backgrounds and ages. This was so much fun, and I was invited back on any Monday night I wish. Lesson # 2: Wow, I didn't realize how much fear I would have with this one. I thought that I had conquered my fear of embarrassment long ago, and realized very quickly that as I locked eyes with people in an attempt to see if they were open to a hug, my vulnerability showed too. Day 3 - contact Jake Nawrocki to collaborate on something - this is actually one of my 18 in 2018, too, and I will write more on this in an upcoming blog! I listen to Jake's podcast - Operation Self Reset - when I am on the treadmill at the gym, which equates to 3-4 times a week, and since his podcasts come out once a week, after I listen to any I have missed, I even listen to some that I have already heard and learn something new. I actually emailed Jake when I got home last night after a lack of another rejection therapy project today, so it was not what I was planning to do today. Lesson #3: Planning is key. My idea today was to start a compliment chain in a restaurant or coffee shop where I was having lunch with a friend, and instead I ended up just hanging out because I didn't have all my supplies with me. I am typing out the next rejection therapy project in an effort to keep to my plan - I want to go to a coffee shop or a restaurant with some stickers (Valentine's or smiley face themed) and ask other customers if they want to participate in a compliment chain. Either way, I will compliment them and give them a smiley face, then if they say "yes" I will also give them a smiley face for the person to whom they pass on a compliment. So now I am daring you to be part of my experiment, either by engaging in your own rejection therapy or by sending me ideas for some of my upcoming 100 days...the three criteria I have set for myself for this project are as follows: 1) must be fun, 2) must be moral, and 3) must make the world a better place. www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQTnREEtuNk |
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